Inside Japan's 'corpse hotels'

Tucked away in the backstreets of Osaka, the Hotel Relation building is nondescript and bland.

It's the kind of place you'd scroll past if you were looking for a room on a hotel booking site.
But decor and ambiance are probably not a priority for the guests who use the six rooms at the Hotel Relation.
That's because it's a "corpse hotel", and the guests at this final resting place are all dead. No need for room service here.

The term "corpse hotel" sounds like a bad setting for a D-grade slasher flick. But in a rapidly ageing society, the demand for these hotels is booming in Japan's big cities.

Ninety-nine percent of people are cremated in Japan - the highest rate of cremation in the world.

And with more and more people dying each year, some families have to wait up to four days for their deceased loved ones to be cremated.

That's where places like the Hotel Relation come in. They function as a temporary mortuary, and their popularity is evident: every day, their rooms are full.

Inside the hotel, up to four relatives can sleep in an adjacent room with twin beds and a TV.

Yoshihiro Yurisu has run Hotel Relation for the past 10 years.

"You can see the deceased whenever you like in our hotel. Even when they are kept in a refrigerating room... you can call them up by pushing a switch," Yurisu says with enthusiasm.

Another burden for bereaved families is cost. Japanese funerals are among some of the most expensive in the world. The service alone can cost $23,000 with an array of pricey services like fleets of cars, big funeral halls and expensive food as optional extras.

Added all together, the cost of a funeral is ten times higher than a memorial service in the UK.

So Yuisu has started holding small funerals in Hotel Relation.

"I think we will see the simpler and cheaper funerals like the ones that we hold at this hotel in the future," Yuisu says.
This may be no surprise, given that Japan is in the economic doldrums.
Some of Yuisu's guests have stayed at his hotel for three weeks. Corpse hotels like the Hotel Relation cost $150 a night for lodging.
Not a bad price - but the breakfast buffet is not included.
For more on how Japan's funeral industry is getting creative, watch 101 East's film When I Die .

Is Nantucket a bellwether for the funeral industry?

Wednesday, 06 August 2014 00:00

Update 8/6/14 --- Despite lobbying efforts by funeral home and cemetery industry groups, a bill passed by the Massachusetts legislature will allow Nantucket residents to form a non-profit funeral service on the island. The bill exempts Nantucket from certain laws that would impede their plans, such as requiring a chapel in all funeral establishments. Read about the bill here. 

The New York Times ran a fascinating story July 13 about the closure of Nantucket Island's only funeral home. This is causing residents logistical problems, as bodies have to be shipped off the island by ferry to a mainland funeral home.

But on Feb. 14, the day of Ms. Davis’s funeral, New England was digging out from a huge snowstorm and bracing for the next. Foul weather forced the cancellation of the ferry that was to bring Ms. Davis home. Her body spent almost a month on the mainland at the funeral home, but suspended in what her daughter called a heartbreaking limbo.

What's interesting to us, though, is how the story highlights two foundational problems in the American funeral industry:

1. The vast oversupply of funeral home relative to the population
2. Anti-competitive hearse-circling from the organized funeral industry

Most people don't realize that the US has almost twice as many funeral homes as it would need to adequately serve the population while providing a good living for the funeral home and staff. In some states there are four to five times as many as needed.

Unlike in other sectors, like restaurants, more rooftops doesn't lead to price competition. It's just the opposite. A restaurant can find ways to keep you coming back for meal after meal. But a funeral home can only sell you one funeral, no matter how good their marketing. There's a fixed, absolute number of deaths per capita. The more funeral homes there are, the fewer calls there are to go around. So prices go up. Or, as Nantucket's experience shows, some are finally going out of business.

The Times notes Nantucket's loss of its only funeral home "inspired some to redouble their efforts to establish a nonprofit funeral service here." Of course, there's a but:

But they are being opposed by powerful organizations representing Massachusetts’ cemeteries and funeral directors. Those groups say Nantucket’s efforts could open the door for other towns to set up their own funeral homes, which, they say, would undermine state regulations and even threaten public health. Local officials say those arguments are specious and that the organizations are simply worried about losing business.

"Public health." "State regulations." These are the funeral trade groups' favorite excuses for opposing any and all potential competition. The local officials are right; these arguments are specious. Funeral homes are not part of the public health infrastructure despite the industry's century-long campaign to elevate itself to the prestige-level of physicians. Contrary to popular belief, dead people are not a public health menace (those of us still top-side are the ones who spread disease, not the inert dead). It should embarrass the industry that its trade associations are still peddling this unscientific nonsense. And it's not plausible that they simply don't know any better. They do, but they are willing to pretend otherwise because they know that connecting "dead bodies" with "health" provokes an emotional fear response from the public. So much the better for a retail sector that wants to own everything we do with our dead.

Nantucket citizens deserve praise for ingenuity and compassion. Launching a nonprofit funeral service to take care of their own is in the best traditions of rural self-sufficiency and neighborly care. Undertakers' trade groups should be ashamed of standing in the way. Especially when it's their creaking, antique business model that got Nantucket where it finds itself today.

Interested in how the funeral industry uses the lawmaking process to make your funeral more costly? Read "Circling the Hearses," the first chapter from Final Rights: Reclaiming the American Way of Death.

Last Updated ( Wednesday, 06 August 2014 15:04 )  

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Come to the Forest to Visit Me

Come to the forest to visit me
Down by the roots of a tree
Waste not your tears on cold, stone graves
Water a flower for me

Give me to the earth when my winter comes
Bury me deep in the ground
Mark not my place with statues or caves
Find me where life can be found

Come to the woods when autumn leaves turn
Golden and copper and red
Rustle up memories, seeds of joy stored
Kick up the leaves in my stead

Visit a garden on warm, summer days
Keep company with blossoms and bees
Remember my heart blooms forever in yours
Take comfort from shushing shade trees

Let springtime surround you with life and the living
Birdsong and budding green leaves
Look up at the sky, give thanks for sun and rain
When you think of me, please smile more than grieve

Come to the forest to visit me
Down by the roots of a tree
Waste not your tears on thoughts of death
Water a new flower for me

By, Lurana Brown

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Lurana Brown is a pianist/accompanist and licensed massage therapist. Her poetry has been published by the Blue Hour and Shoe Music Press, is forthcoming in anthologies by the Visionary Press Collaborative, Swimming with Elephants, and the Blue Hour, and can be found at www.luranabrown.com.

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Designating an Executor of Estate in the UK

The following is a guest post contributed by Andy Woodbridge:

An Executor can be very helpful in the initial days after a death. They can help to obtain and disseminate a will or directive, and can also make decisions on how to handle funeral arrangements and more.

It is vital that an executor be assigned well in advance of end of life. This can help to ensure that one less decision has to be made in the event of an unfortunate terminal illness or fatal injury. Agreeing to be an executor of estate can be an excellent way to pay tribute to a loved one, family member, or dear friend.

In the United Kingdom, anyone can be assigned the executor of estate position. This is true even if the person stands to benefit from the will itself through monetary or material gains. There are only a few simple rules to clarify who may or may not be assigned as an executor of estate.

All executors must be at least 18 years of age or older at the time that they enter they begin to act as executor. Younger teens may be assigned as executor, but may only act as an executor if the death occurs after their 18th birthday. In this instance, a second executor should be designated to protect from sudden occurrences prior to that date. Executors must also be of sound mind, and should be able to make decisions both quickly and with thorough consideration.

The executor of estate position can be rescinded, but it is exceptionally difficult to do so. Before you accept such a position, you should consider that it is normally assigned for life. There is no shame in refusing the position; it comes with plenty of responsibility and can be extremely time-consuming. You should be honest and forthright with your ability to enact decisions and executor responsibilities. Whenever possible, this decision should be discussed at length with the person for whom you will act as executor.

Depending on whether you are the only executor, it may be a legal requirement that you assign another executor in your place. This, too, is a decision that must be undertaken with great care. It is advisable that you consult with a solicitor before appointing anyone as an executor of estate.

In certain areas of the United Kingdom, such as Northern Ireland, you can only rescind the position and appoint a new executor if you are able to prove that you cannot handle your own affairs. This is exceptionally rare, and is generally proven only when you are judged incapable of making decisions.

In most areas, a Renunciation of Probate form is required. This form must be filled out in order to begin the process. The Renunciation of Probate can be downloaded online for free, and can then be printed off.

In some cases,  assigning an appropriate executor may be difficult or impossible. This is where professional executor services come in. Professional executor services can be enacted to allow for execution of estates without an individual needing to act as executor specifically. These services can also be effective when estates are particularly large.

Several other options are available to provide an executor in extenuating circumstances:

Up to four executors can be assigned to share dutiesA solicitor may be able to act as an executorAnyone may apply to be executor through a letter of administration

Assigning an executor of estate should be undertaken as early as possible. The same is true for the creation of a will; there are many advantages to creating a will early in life. This can provide for a fail-safe in the event of sudden fatal illnesses or accidents. While few enjoy thinking about their death in advance, it is important to do so.

A will is not something to be feared; rather, it should be discussed matter-of-factly with those you love to ensure that your estate is distributed fairly and in a manner that you agree with. A good solicitor can help to ensure that all of your most important wishes are followed. Click here for further probate advise.

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Advantages of Preparing a Will in Advance

Despite its natural, inevitable nature, death is an uncomfortable subject for many people.  Turning attention to what life might be like for others, once you’re gone, may not be the most appealing pastime, but certain accommodations must nonetheless be made in advance of your death.  Naming beneficiaries on insurance policies and investments, for example, provides protection in the event of your demise, making sure your assets are distributed to the proper parties.  A Last Will and Testament, or simply “will,” is an expanded document which serves a similar function; earmarking possessions to be passed-on and outlining your wishes for administering you estate.

Preparing a will in advance of your death makes sense on several grounds.  If you have not taken the time to prepare a will, consider some of the following reasons it may be prudent to create one at this time.

While the subjects contained in your will are highly personal, sharing innermost thoughts and feelings; the document is ultimately put in-place for the benefit of survivors.  Grief over your passing is a burden in and of itself; so piling-on additional uncertainty can complicate the situation even further.  Constructing a comprehensive will takes the burden away from survivors, furnishing assurances that everything will unfold in a reasonable way.

Maintaining a will ensures that your legacy will carry-on as intended.  When no will is present at the time of death, your estate becomes subject to legal jurisdiction governing how it must be handled.  Personal property, for example, can be bequeathed specifically according to the terms contained in your will, whereas legal statutes take-over regarding property distributions, when no will is available.

While your estate might seem straightforward, it is a mistake to assume your wishes will be carried out by the courts in lieu of a will.  If you have no spouse or children, for example, parents, siblings, nieces and nephews may be in line to inherit your property – unless you articulate a will naming other beneficiaries.  A friend or long-term partner, for instance, may be designated to receive personal property in the event of your death, but will be left out in the cold when no will is available to identify your wishes.

Even if your estate is not highly valued, in terms of assets and property held, it can become complicated to administer without a will.  Legal issues and contentious heirs arise in many cases, calling for professional assistance from lawyers and tax advisors.  Not only does the added effort take time, but legal fees and paid consultation add-up quickly, eating-in to the value of your estate.

When an up-to-date will is maintained, many questions are summarily resolved at the time of your death, expediting the resolution of your estate.  While wills are relatively inexpensive to produce, they nonetheless hold the potential to save significant sums of money administering your estate, once you are gone.

In addition to identifying property distributions, wills are used to designate who will be in charge of administering your wishes.  Once commonly referred to as “executor”, the person tasked with managing your estate is sometimes referred to as “personal representative”.  Your will allows you to select a friend or family member you feel comfortable with, and who will administer your estate competently and efficiently.  To avoid family conflicts and inconsistencies, some individuals name professionals to administer their wills.

In the absence of a will, the courts choose personal representatives, to oversee proceedings on your behalf.  While court-appointed representatives are not granted powers above and beyond other members of your family, your ability to select your own personal advocate is lost when you die without a will in-place.

You may realize additional benefits, such as tax-planning advantages, by maintaining a properly formatted will.  But at the very least, you’ll protect your heirs and beneficiaries; ensuring your desires are carried out after death.

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Who Has the Legal Right to Arrange a Funeral?

By Josh Slocum
Executive Director
Funeral Consumers Alliance

Conflicts between family members and interested parties over who has the legal right and precedence to make funeral arrangements for a person are sadly common. Here are the basics.

Designated Agents---Most states have some form of a law that allows a person to legally designate anyone she wishes to have the sole legal right to make and carry out funeral arrangements. For a list by state, see this link.

If the deceased had a designated agent in place, that person's directions will overrule anyone else's, regardless of marriage or other kin.

In the absence of a designated agent, the legal authority goes like this, from highest to lowest:

1. Living spouse or domestic partner
2. Adult child or children (states vary; some require only one child's permission while others require majority or unanimous agreement)
3. Parents
4. Siblings
5. Grandparents

. . .and so on down the line of ever more distant relations.

Important ---The most frequent "unfounded" complaint we receive at FCA has to do with anger at a funeral director for allowing someone to make funeral arrangements, someone the complainant believes is not legally entitled to do so. While there are cases where funeral directors knowingly (and illegally) allow this, most of the ones we see are not actually the funeral director's fault. It's important to discern whether your complaint is actually with a family member who misrepresented himself to the funeral home.

Remember, there is no "next of kin database" in existence. Funeral directors have no way of knowing that dad's live-in girlfriend isn't his legal wife if she says she is. And no, it's not reasonable to expect funeral directors to demand marriage certificates or some other "proof" of kinship. State laws require funeral directors to make a good faith effort to secure the permission from the legally authorized people. But that depends on them knowing who those people are, and a party who lies to the funeral home can upset the process.

If you think someone has illegitimately taken over the funeral arrangements for a family member, try to ascertain first whether that person was actually the deceased's legal designated agent. And it's worth giving the funeral director the benefit of the doubt unless you have evidence that he or she knowingly participated in a fraudulent transaction. Most funeral directors don't, and they don't want to be a referee over family disputes. I can't blame them. Quite frankly, I've been shocked at how cruel and mean-spirited otherwise nice people can behave when they see an opportunity to have a go at a despised relative over the funeral arrangements.

ORIGINALLY POSTED IN THE FCA DISCUSSION FORUM 3-14-2014

Last Updated ( Saturday, 15 March 2014 21:07 )  

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Mom Adds Sandbox to Boy's Grave So Older Son Can Play with His Brother

People Magazine
March 13, 2014

By Kelli Bender

A mother's tribute to her deceased 5-day-old son – the addition of a sandbox to his grave, so her older boy could continue to play with his brother – has quickly gone viral on Facebook, with more than 220,000 users sharing her photo.

Ashlee Hammac, 24, says she originally planned to decorate the gravesite of her son Ryan with glass pebbles, but then realized her older son, Tucker, needed his own place to mourn.

"The more I thought about it, the more I wanted something my other son Tucker could be incorporated in," Hammac told PEOPLE. "He always goes out there with me, and sits out there, and sings lullabies, and talks to him just like he was there. So I wanted it to be special for him too. His favorite thing right now is trucks."

Read the full article at People Magazine

 

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New from the FTC-en Espanol

The Federal Trade Commission has revised two extremely helpful documents for funeral consumers. Even better, they're available in Spanish, too. Check out El último adiós and Compra de servicios fúnebres. FCA Affiliates—Note that you can order paper versions of these in bulk, free, from the FTC. You can also (and should) host these new pamphlets directly on your site. 

The Federal Trade Commission, the nation’s consumer protection agency, has revised two brochures to help consumers make funeral choices, either in advance or at a time of need.

Paying Final Respects summarizes consumer rights under the FTC’s Funeral Rule, which helps to ensure that people get information so they can compare prices among funeral homes. For example, consumers have a right to buy only the funeral goods (such as caskets) and services (such as embalming) they want, and to get a written, itemized price list when they visit a funeral home.

Shopping for Funeral Services provides a detailed guide to various kinds of funeral goods and services, includes a pricing checklist, glossary, and contact information for national organizations.

You can order the publications at ftc.gov/bulkorder. The FTC has related information online in a series of articles that explain consumer rights, describe types of funeral products and services, and help shoppers compare providers. The FTC has compliance information for people in the funeral industry at business.ftc.gov/funerals.

The Federal Trade Commission works for consumers to prevent fraudulent, deceptive, and unfair business practices and to provide information to help spot, stop, and avoid them. To file a complaint in English or Spanish, visit the FTC’s online Complaint Assistant or call 1-877-FTC-HELP (1-877-382-4357). The FTC enters complaints into Consumer Sentinel, a secure, online database available to more than 2,000 civil and criminal law enforcement agencies in the U.S. and abroad. The FTC’s website provides free information on a variety of consumer topics. Like the FTC on Facebook, follow us on Twitter, and subscribe to press releases for the latest FTC news and resources.

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Last Updated ( Monday, 31 March 2014 16:17 )  

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Court reinstate's Pennsylvania's irrational, protectionist rules

Monday, 24 February 2014 13:59

The Third Circuit Court overturned a lower-court ruling, reinstating nearly all of Pennsylvania's blatantly protectionist, anti-competitive laws restricting who can own funeral homes, what they can be called, whether they can serve food, and more. FCA filed a friend of the court brief on behalf of the plaintiffs, led by funeral director Ernie Heffner, when the case was before the district court. We agreed that many of the state laws at issue actually harmed consumers by preventing competition and innovation among funeral homes by propping up existing large, powerful funeral home operators. 

Read the ruling here.

The Institute for Justice issued the following press release. Note: We do not know what the next steps for the plaintiffs may be. 

Arlington, Va.—Today, the 3rd U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals overturned a lower court ruling that invalidated 10 of Pennsylvania’s outdated, irrational and, in most cases, blatantly anti-competitive funeral regulations as unconstitutional. The case was brought by a group of Pennsylvania funeral directors and challenged several of Pennsylvania’s funeral laws, including a requirement that every funeral home have an embalming room. The Institute for Justice filed a friend-of-the-court brief in the case, arguing the regulations are ineffective and wasteful and that it is the judiciary’s job to engage in a meaningful evaluation of whether laws serve their purposes and to strike them down as unconstitutional when they do not.

“Today’s court decision completely ignored evidence that Pennsylvania’s funeral regulations do nothing to advance the public health and did little more than rubber stamp an irrational, protectionist law,” said IJ Attorney Dan Alban, who authored IJ’s amicus brief in the Heffner v. Murphy case. “As IJ’s brief argued, proper application of the rational-basis test demands that courts engage in a genuine, meaningful review of the evidence to determine whether a law actually accomplishes its purposes, which is something that the court did not do today.”

The lawsuit brought by several smaller Pennsylvania funeral directors challenged 10 of Pennsylvania’s funeral regulations as unconstitutional and anti-competitive. Included among the challenged regulations is Pennsylvania’s requirement that all funeral homes be outfitted with an embalming room, even if the embalming room is never used—a law that is nearly identical to the embalming-room requirement that IJ successfully challenged in Minnesota.

“The 3rd Circuit’s decision essentially makes it impossible for entrepreneurs to change useless laws that exist only to protect large funeral homes from competition,” Alban said. “As the court acknowledged, funeral directors tried to get the law changed in the legislature in 2008 and failed because large funeral homes opposed it. Nonetheless, the court refused to do its job and strike down the law, stating that entrepreneurs should just try again in the legislature, even though history shows their attempts would be futile.”

“Today’s ruling shows what happens when courts fail to subject regulations to meaningful scrutiny and reinforces the need for courts to reclaim their role as the branch of government responsible for checking the legislature,” said Clark Neily, IJ senior attorney and author of “Terms of Engagement,” a book arguing in favor of judicial engagement.
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Advantages of Preparing a Will in Advance

Despite its natural, inevitable nature, death is an uncomfortable subject for many people.  Turning attention to what life might be like for others, once you’re gone, may not be the most appealing pastime, but certain accommodations must nonetheless be made in advance of your death.  Naming beneficiaries on insurance policies and investments, for example, provides protection in the event of your demise, making sure your assets are distributed to the proper parties.  A Last Will and Testament, or simply “will,” is an expanded document which serves a similar function; earmarking possessions to be passed-on and outlining your wishes for administering you estate.

Preparing a will in advance of your death makes sense on several grounds.  If you have not taken the time to prepare a will, consider some of the following reasons it may be prudent to create one at this time.

While the subjects contained in your will are highly personal, sharing innermost thoughts and feelings; the document is ultimately put in-place for the benefit of survivors.  Grief over your passing is a burden in and of itself; so piling-on additional uncertainty can complicate the situation even further.  Constructing a comprehensive will takes the burden away from survivors, furnishing assurances that everything will unfold in a reasonable way.

Maintaining a will ensures that your legacy will carry-on as intended.  When no will is present at the time of death, your estate becomes subject to legal jurisdiction governing how it must be handled.  Personal property, for example, can be bequeathed specifically according to the terms contained in your will, whereas legal statutes take-over regarding property distributions, when no will is available.

While your estate might seem straightforward, it is a mistake to assume your wishes will be carried out by the courts in lieu of a will.  If you have no spouse or children, for example, parents, siblings, nieces and nephews may be in line to inherit your property – unless you articulate a will naming other beneficiaries.  A friend or long-term partner, for instance, may be designated to receive personal property in the event of your death, but will be left out in the cold when no will is available to identify your wishes.

Even if your estate is not highly valued, in terms of assets and property held, it can become complicated to administer without a will.  Legal issues and contentious heirs arise in many cases, calling for professional assistance from lawyers and tax advisors.  Not only does the added effort take time, but legal fees and paid consultation add-up quickly, eating-in to the value of your estate.

When an up-to-date will is maintained, many questions are summarily resolved at the time of your death, expediting the resolution of your estate.  While wills are relatively inexpensive to produce, they nonetheless hold the potential to save significant sums of money administering your estate, once you are gone.

In addition to identifying property distributions, wills are used to designate who will be in charge of administering your wishes.  Once commonly referred to as “executor”, the person tasked with managing your estate is sometimes referred to as “personal representative”.  Your will allows you to select a friend or family member you feel comfortable with, and who will administer your estate competently and efficiently.  To avoid family conflicts and inconsistencies, some individuals name professionals to administer their wills.

In the absence of a will, the courts choose personal representatives, to oversee proceedings on your behalf.  While court-appointed representatives are not granted powers above and beyond other members of your family, your ability to select your own personal advocate is lost when you die without a will in-place.

You may realize additional benefits, such as tax-planning advantages, by maintaining a properly formatted will.  But at the very least, you’ll protect your heirs and beneficiaries; ensuring your desires are carried out after death.

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FCA calls foul on FTC logic SCI/Stewart merger

Wednesday, 29 January 2014 14:51

Surprisingly, the Federal Trade Commission accepted some truly bizarre funeral industry assertions when deciding which properties funeral giant Service Corporation International (brand name: "Dignity Memorial") has to sell off in order to merge with its competitor, Stewart Enterprises. Industry experts push the line that consumers don't choose cremation over burial because of price, but because of "personal" or "religious" reasons. This is plain nonsense; price is one of the top factors consumers cite when they pick cremation over burial. 

Somehow the FTC found this "logic" persuasive, and it affected how they decided which funeral businesses SCI has to divest. From the FTC's consent order:

“Funeral services do not include cremation services because consumers do not substitute cremation services for burial services based upon price, and the competitive conditions for cremation
services are substantially different than other funeral services. Since consumers primarily choose their final disposition on their personal or religious views, consumers generally do not view cremation services as a viable substitute for funeral services.”

This is remarkable. It completely contradicts the experience of consumers and consumer advocates like FCA. We have to wonder whether the Federal Trade Commission has any idea at all what choices the average American family has to make when death comes, and how tight budgets affect those. Americans do not have unlimited money to spend on funerals, and huge numbers of people have switched to cremation for its affordability as compared to casketed cemetery burial. 

FCANT President Jim Bates examines this in more detail in commentary submitted to the FTC, reproduced below.

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Jewish funeral activists ask FTC to change course

Tuesday, 31 December 2013 15:30

A press release from the Jewish Funeral Practices Committee of Greater Washington:

December 30, 2013

For the Jewish Funeral Practices Committee of Greater Washington

Contacts:  Bob Hausman, 202-966-1545

David Balto, 202-577-5424

The Jewish Funeral Practices Committee (JFPC) of Greater Washington cautiously welcomes the Federal Trade Commission's proposed agreement with Service Corporation International (SCI) requiring them to divest Edward Sagel Funeral Directions in Rockville as a condition of allowing SCI to acquire the nation's second largest funeral services provider, Stewart Enterprises.  The FTC clearly accepted the Jewish community’s argument that there was a competitive problem in the DC/MD Jewish funeral home market.

Unfortunately, the FTC proposed decision to require the divestiture of Sagel is the wrong remedy. The Commission should have required the divestiture of Hines Rinaldi because it is an effective competitor and Sagel is not. Sagel is basically a modest storefront, does not have a chapel or facilities to handle bodies, and its market share has fallen from 25% to about 11% in the past three years.

The correct decision would have been to require divestiture of Hines Rinaldi Funeral Home with whom the Jewish Funeral Practices Committee has had a relationship with for over 11 years and provides a proper Jewish funeral for $1825.

SCI owns two funeral homes in the market – Danzansky/Goldberg and Sagel Funeral Directions.  Danzansky is a large full service facility. With control of Danzansky and Hines Rinaldi, SCI will still have the incentive and ability to undermine the JFPC arrangement.  Even if someone else purchases Sagel we can’t guarantee it will be interested in a contract with JFPC.

The FTC action is a “proposed” consent order.  It is not a final decision. The FTC has issued the proposed order for public comments for a 30-day period.  At the end of the period it will evaluate the comments and decide whether to make the settlement final. 

The Jewish Funeral Practices Committee, the law offices of David Balto and the JCRC of Greater Washington will be launching a second grassroots campaign to persuade FTC to divest Hines Rinaldi.

We, at JFPC, are very grateful for the extraordinary leadership and strategic advocacy they have provide during the first phase of this campaign.  They organized numerous meetings with FTC staff and Commissioners and an unprecedented demonstration in front of the FTC Headquarters building to dramatize community concerns.  We also extend our gratitude to the numerous elected officials – including: U.S Senators Cardin and Sarbanes, Maryland’s Governor, Lt Governor and Attorney General; Congressmen Delaney, Van Hollen, Sarbanes and Edwards; MoCo County Executive Leggett and many other local and state officials who wrote and whose letters can be found on the JCRC web site -- http://jcrc.convio.net/site/PageServer.

Last Updated ( Wednesday, 29 January 2014 16:10 )  

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The Role a Stonemason Plays in Selecting a Memorial

This contributed article is supported by Astral Stone:

Stonemasons play an integral role in the process of creating and selecting a memorial for loved ones that have passed away, yet their role is often under appreciated. Stonemasonry has come a long way since the medieval ages and the craft of shaping and working with stone is an increasingly specialized and niche skill in today’s world.

Within the context of the production of memorials, stonemasons are an invaluable resource to consult when you need help selecting memorials for a deceased family member, pet, or friend. Here are just some areas of expertise that they can share with you to guide you along the process of crafting a memorial.

Cemetery Guidelines

Some cemeteries may have different guidelines when it comes to displaying a memorial. It’s best to talk to the organization that managed the cemetery to better understand the different restrictions and regulations when it comes to erecting memorials. A local stonemason should be well versed with each nearby cemetery’s standards; as well as specifications for memorials, and will be able to guide you along the process and paperwork required.

Types of Memorials

Memorials are usually categorized as: bronze/brass/granite plaques; granite or marble headstones; or a full monument. Keep in mind that these types of memorials will need to be taken into consideration before buying a burial site. For example, a granite plaque may be used for a cremation memorial, while a marble headstone is usually best placed upright in a lawn setting. Talk to your chosen stonemason about the different types of memorials, to know which monument is best for which burial site as well as the different materials and their ability to weather the elements.

Memorials Prices

The fee for building memorials will vary depending on the materials needed for the structure. For example, some granite memorials will be more expensive than other memorial types. The stonemason can offer advice and tailor a memorial to suit your budget, taking into account the size, inscriptions, and type of materials used.

Building a memorial is an intimate gesture that you can perform for departed loved ones. To ensure a smooth and hassle-free experience during your time of grief, it’s best to speak with qualified stonemasons such as Astral Stone to learn more about selecting memorials. Done correctly, memorials are one of the best tributes and reminders that though the departed may be gone, they are never forgotten.

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Funeral Flower Etiquette by Religion

Funeral flower etiquette can be different for every culture and religion. It is very important that before attending a funeral or wake that you know the religion’s customs. Even though you may think that everyone would appreciate receiving flowers, it is not appropriate in some cultures.

During this difficult time, it is important for an individual who is planning to either visit the funeral or send flowers to the family to learn about the funeral flower etiquette of the deceased’s family. Flowers may be delivered in person or sent to the family’s home. Or, the flowers may be delivered to the funeral service, burial, or wake. Depending on when and where the flowers are sent, the etiquette may vary. For example, it may not be appropriate to arrive at the funeral with flowers, but it may be acceptable to send flowers to the family a few weeks after the funeral.

The following are some religions and their funeral flower etiquette. If you do not find the information below and are still unsure about the etiquette, refer to the obituary. The family will often include at the end of the obituary some information on whether or not they would like to receive flowers, donations, or other memorial gifts.

Roman Catholic Funeral

Flowers are acceptable during funeral wakes and services of Roman Catholics. The flowers can be sent to the church, funeral home, family’s residence, or to the wake. An individual can also send donations to the family of the deceased if they have requested them in lieu or flowers.

Protestant Funeral

A Protestant funeral ceremony celebrates the deceased person’s life and highlights the afterlife. Flowers are appreciated by the family and can be sent to their home or sent to the funeral home or church. The family may also request that donations be made to a charity they have selected.

Mormon Funeral

During a Mormon funeral flowers are acceptable, but an individual is advised not to send flower arrangements in the shape of a cross. Crosses and crucifix are not permitted because they believe in the bodily resurrection of Christ. It is advised to offer condolences and provide flowers before or after the funeral.

Jewish Funeral

Funeral flowers are not appropriate in Jewish traditions. Individuals are highly encouraged to send donations. A rabbi performs the funeral service and the deceased is buried right after his death. The family sits in mourning for seven days and fruit and food baskets are taken to the home.

Buddhist Funeral

A Buddhist family will accept flowers, but you should never send red flowers. White flowers are the traditional Buddhist flower color and are preferred. Also, it is not appropriate to send the family food. A donation may be made if the family has selected a charity.

Muslim Funeral

Whether or not to send flowers to a Muslim family depends on their beliefs. Some people believe that the Islamic emphasis on simplicity makes sending flowers inappropriate. However, some people will say that sending a simple flower arrangement is ok.

Hindu Funeral

A Hindu funeral takes place within 24 hours of death. Mourners should not bring anything to the funeral and not exchange greeting with other guests. A ceremony is held 10 days after the death where fruit should be brought for the family, but flowers are still not appropriate.

The funeral flower etiquette for the religions listed above give you the typical procedure for giving flowers. However, no matter what the religion the family may have different preferences. Often families prefer donations to a charity they select in lieu of flowers. Or, the family may not want flowers or any gifts at all. If you are unsure, refer to the obituary for more information. If there is no information in the obituary, you could ask a relative or close friend of the family. If you are still unsure, give the family a sympathy card and express your condolences for their loss.

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Funeral Poems For A Friend

It is hard to say goodbye to a friend who has passed on. Funeral poems for a friend can help put in to words the numerous emotions we are feeling at such a difficult time. A poem can be read at the funeral service if you choose to say a few words about your friend, or can be included in a sympathy message to the family.

A friend is someone who we can rely on in good and bad times. A friend is someone who we can share everything with without any hesitation. Having a friend by our side is the best feeling in the world because we know that we are never alone. You will surely miss a friend who has passed on, but you can always share to everyone the things you both did by writing funeral poems for a friend. If you are having difficulty writing a poem yourself, do not worry because you can us one of the poems below.

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
Because their words had forked no lightening they
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Do Not Go Gentle into That Good Night – By Dylan Thomas

Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there, I did not die.
Do not stand at my grave and weep – By Mary Frye

When I am gone, release me – let me go
I have so many things to see and do.
You must not tie yourself to me with tears
Be happy that we had so many years. I gave you love,
you can only guess, how much you gave me in happiness.
I thank you for the love each have shown,
but now it is time I travelled alone.
So grieve awhile for me if grieve you must,
then let your grief be comforted by trust
It is only for a while that we must part
so bless those memories within your heart.
I will not be far away, for life goes on.
so if you need me, call and I will come.
Though you cannot see or touch me, I will be near
And if you listen with your heart, you will hear
All of my love around you, soft and clear.
Then when you must come this way alone,
I will greet you with a smile and “Welcome Home”
When I Am Gone – By Unknown Poet

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And
sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, lon I stood And looked
down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair. And
having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear.
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay. In leave
so step had trodden black
Oh, I kept the first for another day! Yet
knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh.
Somewhere ages and ages hence;
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I took
the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
The Road Not Taken – By Robert Lee Frost

If tears could build a stairway
and thoughts a memory lane
I’d walk right up to heaven
and bring you home again
No Farewell words were spoken
No time to say good-bye
You were gone before I knew it
And only God knows why.
My heart’s still active in sadness
And secret tears still flow
What it meant to lose you
No one can ever know.
But now I know you want us
To mourn for you no more
To remember all the happy times
Life still has much in store.
Since you’ll never be forgotten
I pledge to you today
A hallowed place within my heart
Is where you’ll always stay.
God knows why, with chilling touch,
Death gathers those we love so much,
And what now seems so strange and dim,
Will all be clear, when we meet Him.
I Knew you for a Moment
If Tears Could Build A Stairway – By Poet Unknown

When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me
I want to rites in a gloom-filled room
Why cry for a soul set free?
Miss me a little-but not too long
And not with your head bowed low
Remember the love that we once shared
Miss me-but let me go
For this is a journey that we all must take
And each must go alone.
It’s all part of the Master’s plan
A step on the road to home
When you are lonely and sick of heart
Go to the friends we know
And bury your sorrows in doing good deeds
Miss me but let me go.
Miss Me But Let Me Go – By Anonymous

Though we never know
Where life will take us,
I know it’s just a ride
On the wheel.
And we never know
When death will shake us
And we wonder how
It will feel.
So Goodbye my friend.
I know I’ll never see you again.
But the time together
Through all the years,
Will take away these tears.
It’s OK now – Goodbye my friend.
I see a lot of things
That make me crazy,
And I guess I held on to you,
You could have run away
And left – well maybe,
But it wasn’t time
And we both knew.
So Goodbye My friend.
I know I’ll never see you again.
But the love you gave me
Through all the years
Will take away these tears.
I’m OK now – Goodbye my friend.
Goodbye, My Friend – By Anonymous

Knowing that a friend has left you is sad. Even though the journey of you and your friend has ended, all the memories will not fade away as long as you remember the bond that you both shared. When you write, or select, funeral poems for a friend, you will remember the friendship you and your friend shared whenever you read it.

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Famous Funeral Poems

Everybody can attest that saying goodbye is one of the hardest things to do. Reading famous funeral poems at the memorial service will help to express that final farewell. Poems help put in to words the thoughts and feelings that can be difficult to express during such an emotional time.

For most people the thought of writing a funeral poem seems like a difficult or impossible task. However, a poem makes a nice addition to a funeral eulogy or can be part of a memorial. Luckily, there are numerous writers who have written poems that are appropriate for a funeral. The following are the most famous funeral poems that are traditionally read at a funeral service.

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
Because their words had forked no lightening they
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Do Not Go Gentle into That Good Night – By Dylan Thomas

Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there, I did not die.
Do not stand at my grave and weep – By Mary Frye

When I am gone, release me – let me go
I have so many things to see and do.
You must not tie yourself to me with tears
Be happy that we had so many years. I gave you love,
you can only guess, how much you gave me in happiness.
I thank you for the love each have shown,
but now it is time I travelled alone.
So grieve awhile for me if grieve you must,
then let your grief be comforted by trust
It is only for a while that we must part
so bless those memories within your heart.
I will not be far away, for life goes on.
so if you need me, call and I will come.
Though you cannot see or touch me, I will be near
And if you listen with your heart, you will hear
All of my love around you, soft and clear.
Then when you must come this way alone,
I will greet you with a smile and “Welcome Home”
When I Am Gone – By Unknown Poet

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And
sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, lon I stood And looked
down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair. And
having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear.
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay. In leave
so step had trodden black
Oh, I kept the first for another day! Yet
knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh.
Somewhere ages and ages hence;
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I took
the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
The Road Not Taken – By Robert Frost

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He (She) is Dead
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policeman wear black cotton gloves.

He (She) was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week, my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song:
I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong.

The stars are not wanted now; put out everyone;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood
For nothing now can ever come to any good.
Funeral Blues – By W.A. Auden

Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go, yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more, day by day,
You tell me of our future that you planned:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that I once had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.
Remember – Christina Rossetti

When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me,
I want no rites in a gloom filled room
Why cry for a soul set free!
Miss me a little, but not for long,
And not with your head bowed low.
Remember the love we once shared,
Miss me, but let me go!
For this a journey we all must take,
And each must go alone;
It’s all a part of the master’s plan
A step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick of heart
Go to the friends we know,
And bury your sorrows in doing good deeds,
Miss me, but let me go.
Miss Me, But Let Me Go – By Robyn Rancman

One night a man had a dream. He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene , he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand: one belonging to him, and the other to the Lord.

When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of his life, that there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in his life.

This really bothered him, and he questioned the Lord about it. ” Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you, you’d walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times of my life, there is only one set of footprints. I don’t understand why, when I needed you most you would leave me”.

The Lord replied ” My Son, My precious child. I Love You, and would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you”.
Footprints – By Author Unknown

The famous funeral poems listed above are the most commonly read poems during a memorial service. You can also use all, or part, of the poem on a plaque or monument. It is important to cherish the fond memories we share with our friends and family. It will always be difficult to say goodbye to a loved one who has passed away, but using a funeral poem can help to express our feelings over their passing.

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Funeral Poems For Father

A father is an important figure in the family and reading funeral poems for father help to honor him at the funeral. Poems can express the thoughts and feelings we are unable to put into words during such a tragic time. Poems can also be used to describe the personality and qualities of the person who passed away.

Funeral poems for father can be used as part of a funeral speech or can be printed on the memorial folders handed out at the funeral. All, or part, of a poem may also be used on a plaque or monument created in tribute to the person. Whether the poem is written by a family member, or a famous author, it is a nice way to create a lasting memorial. Whenever the poem is read in the future it will remind the person reading the poem of their friend or relative who passed away.

The following are a collection of the most popular funeral poems for father. We hope that one of the poems below will remind you of your father and will be used as part of his funeral service.

You never said “I’m leaving”
You never said “goodbye”
You were gone before I knew it,
And only God knew why.

There are no words to tell you
Just what I feel inside
The shock, the hurt, the anger
Might gradually subside

Dad’s Poem – By Poet Unknown

God took the strength of a mountain,
The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun,
The calm of a quiet sea,
The generous soul of nature,
The comforting arm of night,
The wisdom of the ages,
The power of the eagle’s flight,
The joy of a morning in spring,
The faith of a mustard seed,
The patience of eternity,
The depth of a family need,
Then God combined these qualities,
When there was nothing more to add,
He knew His masterpiece was complete,
And so, He called it … “DAD!”

What Makes A Dad – By Unknown Poet

Not how did he die, but how did he live?
Not what did he gain, but what did he give?

These are the units to measure the worth
Of a man as a man, regardless of birth.

Not, what was his church, nor what was his creed?
But had he befriended those really in need?

Was he ever ready, with word of good cheer,
To bring back a smile, to banish a tear?

Not what did the sketch in the newspaper say,
But how many were sorry when he passed away.

Not How Did He Die, But How Did He Live? – By Author Unknown

There was no time to say goodbye
But this I ask – please do not cry
Remember me as you think best
The happy time – forget the rest.

Look for me and I’ll be there
And you will find me everywhere
In the gentle touch of breeze
That cools the skin or swirls the leaves.

In the scent and color of flowers
That gave to me such happy hours
On sunny days under sunny skies of blue
Just think of me, I’ll be with you.

In winter when there’s cloud or mist
The rain will give to you my kiss
As wood smoke lingers in the air
Look for me and I’ll be there.

Where seagulls cry above the sea
And surf rolls in so endlessly
Among towering trees that soar above
In all these things that i once loved
Look for me and I’ll be there
You’ll feel my presence everywhere.

I’ll Be There – By Author Unknown

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
Because their words had forked no lightening they
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

And you, my father, there on the sad height,
Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night – By Dylan Thomas

As I look up to the skies above,
The stars stretch endlessly–
But somehow all those rays of light
Seem dimmer now to me.
As I watch the morning sun appear,
The shadows still don’t fade—
As if the brightest light of all
Was somehow swept away.

Though I see the branches swaying,
And watch their dancing leaves–
The echoes carried on the wind
Don’t sound the same to me.
As I listen to the morning birds
Sing softly from afar–
It seems to be a mournful tune
That echoes in my heart.

Another day has come again,
As time moves surely on–
But nothing now seems quite the same,
To know that he is gone.
The days and weeks and months ahead
Will never be the same–
Because a treasure beyond words
Can never be replaced.

The loss cannot be measured now,
The void cannot be filled–
And though someday the grief may fade,
His mark will live on still.
For even with my heavy heart,
I know that I’ve been blessed
To have been one who’s life he touched
With warmth so infinite.

As I Look Up to the Skies Above – By Author Unknown

You can shed tears that he is gone,
Or you can smile because he lived,
You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him
Or you can be full of the love that you shared,
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on,
You can cry and close your mind be empty and
turn your back,
Or you can do what he would want:
smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

He Is Gone – By David Harkins

Select one of the funeral poems for father above to create a memorable memorial for your father. Read the poem at the funeral service or print it on a memorial. Whenever you read the poem in the future it will remind you of how important your father was to you.

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Memorial Service Etiquette

Families who lost a loved one appreciate people who attend the funeral service and offer condolences. If you attend a funeral, memorial service etiquette is of the upmost importance. Especially if you have never attended a funeral before it is important to learn how to act at the funeral.

Below are answers to the most commonly asked memorial service etiquette questions. This will provide you with the basic information required to attend a funeral and act appropriately. However, even knowing the information below, the etiquette required will often be related to the type of funeral service and the family who organized it. It is important to consider the family and how they would like guests to act. Is the family traditional and conservative, or are they laid-back and carefree? Make sure to consider the memorial service etiquette listed below and the family’s beliefs before attending the funeral.

What To Wear

Traditionally, most people would wear black to the funeral service. This is because the color black symbolizes grief and sympathy. But today, the color of the clothes that an individual wants to wear no longer matters as much as it did in the past. At most modern funerals, guests are allowed to wear any color they want as long as it does not disrespect the deceased person’s family. Everyone attending the funeral should wear something conservative that does not attract attention. Typically, men wear a suit or khakis and a dress shirt, and women wear a blouse or dress. What you wear is dependent on the family’s values and the type of funeral. For example, a traditional religious funeral at a church would require more formal attire, compare to a less-formal wake at a person’s house.

How To Act

It is important to arrive at the venue early. It is recommended to show up at least 15 minutes before the funeral service starts. After arriving at the funeral home or church, it is advisable to find a seat right away. If the family is available you can offer your condolences to the family before proceeding to a seat. If the family members are accommodating several people, it is better to wait and speak to them after. It is also recommended to keep socializing with other people attending the funeral at a minimum until after the ceremony.

Children At The Funeral

If the children are still very young and wouldn’t really understand what is happening, it is advisable to not bring them to the funeral service. They can cause disruption to the service by crying, talking and moving too much. If the children are old enough, they can attend the funeral, but should first be educated about what will be happening at the funeral. It is important that they understand death and are not surprised by the funeral process.

Show Respect

The main rule in the memorial service etiquette is to be respectful at all times. Refrain from eating and drinking inside the church or the funeral home. Avoid chit chatting with other visitors, especially during the funeral service. Resist answering phone calls or responding to text messages. It is recommended to completely turn the phone off during the funeral.

Gifts and Flowers

Flowers are the most common and safest choice of gift for the family of the deceased. Flowers can be brought to the funeral or sent to the family. However, nowadays many families request memorial donations in lieu or flowers. Typically information on where to send flowers or donations is included at the end of the obituary. It is helpful to read this prior to attending the funeral so that you do not arrive with a large bouquet of flowers if the family requested no flowers.

It is important to understand memorial service etiquette prior to attending a funeral. The information above will provide you with the basic information you need to attend a funeral and act appropriately. In addition, it is important to consider the family’s religious beliefs and traditions prior to attending the funeral.

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Home Funerals-WBUR

Friday, 22 November 2013 13:10

Boston public radio's WBUR has written the best piece on the emotional and practical realities of do it yourself home funeral care we've seen. You can also watch video of one young couple talk about caring for their infant daughter at home after death. Hats off to Rachel Zimmerman, the editor, and to the home funeral guides and families who took part!

Death remains a topic that many of us would rather avoid. And when it comes to the actual nuts and bolts of caring for the dead, most of us tend to think it's best — and furthermore, required by law — to let professional funeral arrangers handle the arrangements.

Well, it turns out that in most states it's perfectly legal to care for your own dead. And, with new momentum to shatter longstanding taboos and stop tip-toeing around death — from "death with dignity" measures sweeping the country to projects promoting kitchen table "conversations"about our deepest end-of-life wishes — a re-energized DIY death movement is emerging.

Find the whole story here. 

 

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Before You Go!

Thursday, 07 November 2013 14:43

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